Coincidence v. Synchronicity

Coincidence? I think we have been wrongly defining the word. We make a big deal out of it as if a coincidence is luck hiding behind a curtain and then pops out of nowhere. SURPRISE! Oh my god, what are the chances?!

Actually, a coincidence is simply two events occurring at the same time with a common thread. I think what we are actually getting excited about is synchronicity. Synchronicity is a coming together of seemingly unconnected events.  That’s what we are getting excited about when it happens. I am not a believer of coincidences as there’s an undertone of chance or luck. I believe that everything happens for a reason. That happenstance is preparation for something else that is going to happen. Whatever I am going through now is preparing me for the next lesson. It is up to me to listen, step back and learn.

A few years ago, I went through a very difficult time. I thought that the world was crashing on me. Everything seemed to have come out of the woodworks and needed my attention right there and then. I absolutely didn’t know what to do and how to handle the issues that fell in my lap. They covered the spectrum of life: family, finances, work, career. Each were attached by to a very specific emotion and all emotions at once. As I am sure you know, it is quite overwhelming.  I didn’t think I was going to come out on the other side.  I thought that I lost all of it and depair set in.

Luckily, I had some very loving people in my life who told me just pause. How long is a pause? On some days it’s a few seconds, other times, an hour or a day or week. Who is to say? During my pause, which in this case, was two weeks, I was able to pull myself out of the maelstrom and let the answers come to me.  And they did. And I was willing and desperate to listen. The answer to work and career presented itself. It was time to move on to a new place which would allow me to freely pursue my art. I am sure what you are wondering how that can be? In my head, I had decided that I was going to be bold and walk into my producer/mentor’s office and tell me to give me that he was going to make it possible to work for him, by him, with him in any manner.  I gave myself 8 months to make the change. Scary and unsure but I set the intention and let it be. About two months after I made the decision, I interviewed at my current job on a lark…and was offered a position. I accepted. I did meet with my producer/mentor and told him what I was going to say to him. We laughed and he said very kind words to me. I think the job offer and the career transition is synchronicity. They happened at the same time and aren’t really connected.

I am getting through to the other side. It has been a very long pause but I have learned so much about myself.

I love Deepak Chopra and his teachings. Here he talks about coincidences and synchronicity. He believes in coincidences. I don’t. We can agree to disagree!

Shubh Diwali! শুভ দীপাবলীর প্রীতি ও শুভেচ্ছা

I love Diwali though I forgot it was today.  It’s like forgetting Christmas or my birthday which has happened in the past. Simply, Diwali is the Festival of Lights. It is significant to Hindus as it symbolizes the return of Rama after 14 years of exile; Mother Lakshmi‘s birth; and Krishna killing a demon thereby rescuing those who were being tormented.  The diyas light the path for a safe return home as well as welcoming prosperity and good fortune.

I grew up as a Catholic and attended many pujas and ramayans. Growing up with dual religions was confusing, However, I was able to see how the two are related. Light through darkness and good over evil always prevail.  Love your neighbor as you love yourself  or karma. And As a matter of fact, during my last trip to Trinidad, we visited Waterloo, a Hindu temple, in the sea. We sat in on a puja that was taking place.  The Hindu religion is so dense and so fascinating. I am still learning. There are so many books to read, stories to hear, and a visit to India to be made.almost happened in the past.

Happy Diwali! Especially to my dad and my family in Trinidad. I am sure that the island is bright!




The Two Reasons I Voted at the Crack of Dawn

I woke up at 5:30 this morning, alert and ready to go. I am not a morning person but I figured I should make the most of it. I am going to vote and not have to worry about it for the rest of the day.

As I was walking to the voting site in my district, I asked myself, “Why do I vote?”

Because I am a woman of color.

The 15th Amendment gives me the right to vote. I cannot be denied my right due to “racecolor, or previous condition of servitude”.

The 19th Amendment also gives me the right to vote. I cannot be denied my right based on my sex.

It’s that simple.  So go vote! If you are in NYC, you should be able to vote at any of the poll sites due to Hurricane Sandy. All you have to do is sign an affidavit. Click here for more info.


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