My Name is Malini and I am a Workaholic

How Do I Know if I’m a Workaholic?

  1. Do you get more excited about your work than about family or anything else? Sometimes, yes.
  2. Are there times when you can charge through your work and other times when you can’t? Absolutely.
  3. Do you take work with you to bed? On weekends? On vacation? I have on many occasions.
  4. Is work the activity you like to do best and talk about most? Yes. And I know it sometimes annoys people.
  5. Do you work more than 40 hours a week? Yes.
  6. Do you turn your hobbies into money-making ventures? *sigh* Yes.
  7. Do you take complete responsibility for the outcome of your work efforts? Always.
  8. Have your family or friends given up expecting you on time? I tend to be a prompt person.
  9. Do you take on extra work because you are concerned that it won’t otherwise get done? Yup.
  10. Do you underestimate how long a project will take and then rush to complete it? At times.
  11. Do you believe that it is okay to work long hours if you love what you are doing? Of course, why wouldn’t you.
  12. Do you get impatient with people who have other priorities besides work? Grrr. YES! šŸ˜¦
  13. Are you afraid that if you don’t work hard you will lose your job or be a failure? I have finally moved forward from that fear.
  14. Is the future a constant worry for you even when things are going very well? Worry was a best friend. We’re now acquaintances.
  15. Do you do things energetically and competitively including play? I am getting better about that.
  16. Do you get irritated when people ask you to stop doing your work in order to do something else? All the effing time.
  17. Have your long hours hurt your family or other relationships? It did.
  18. Do you think about your work while driving, falling asleep or when others are talking? Sometimes.
  19. Do you work or read during meals? No but only because I love to eat.
  20. Do you believe that more money will solve the other problems in your life? Not any more.

If you answer “yes” to three or more of these questions you may be a workaholic. Relax. You are not alone.

Well, thank goodness I’m not alone. I thought this was a normal way of life. As I wait for the next phase of my diagnosis, I have been doingĀ some writing. And you know what I learned about myself? That I have a busy schedule. I knew that I did but I didn’t really KNOW or want to ACCEPT. The first step is knowing. I did a google search of workaholics and the Workaholics Anonymous link came up. I truthfully answered the questions and read some of their literature. Interesting stuff. I was toldĀ I have to slow down and reevaluate my schedule.Ā  I also did a comparison of this year and 2006 (the year of my diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis). There were a ton of similarities and a difference. The difference being that I don’t party like I did but the crazy scheduleĀ remains the same. I have lots to think about and some changes to make without compromising my dreams and passions.Ā As I have blogged, I know what I want but I know thatĀ I don’t want to hurt myself in the process. What fun would that be? To finally achieve everything I dreamed but not be able to enjoy any of it. One day at a time, folks.

SoĀ keep me in your thoughts tomorrow morning šŸ™‚ Everything will be the way it isĀ supposed to be. And if you think you may be a workaholic, visit Great site. I highly recommend it.

Sheryl Leaves at 5:30 and So Do I!

I came across this article hanging on the bulletin board in my office cafekitchenluncharea: Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg Leaves at 5:30. Should You?

I have always been a proponent ofĀ going to work and leaving at the end of the assigned work day. Granted there have been pastĀ jobs where I stayed late or worked through lunch. I did what I had to do to beĀ a team player. However, I had a huge aha moment right before I transitioned to my current position. If I continued working like that and not setting boundaries, I was going to get sick and get burnt…again. It also didn’t allow me to have separation from work because I never ever fully decompressed when I left work. I think I spent a decade working and doing theater which totalled about 70 hours a week. It was nuts. Lots to beĀ grateful for because I was able to learn and achieve some goals but exhausting.

When I started working at my current firmĀ a little over a year ago, I vowed not to put myself in that positionĀ again. I vowed to take my lunch hour, find a way to beĀ most efficient with my time, and know that when I left at 5:30, the work day was done. Fast forward to now, I am so glad that I made those decisions. I have come to realize that IĀ have two careers and the two balance each other out: I need one to keep me from living in a cardboard box and to give me structure; I need the other to allow me to be creative and a free spirit.

A few blogs ago, IĀ wrote about time and I now have realization about why we shouldn’t just focus on one thing at all times… we are unable to be grateful for what we have because we are stuck in the same place. I can honestly say that I have found the most gratitude in my life once I made these subtle adjustments.

Does that mean I don’t care about my job? Not at all. It just doesn’t define me.

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