Give Yourself 21 Days!

I just finished the 21 Day Meditation Challenge with the Chopra Center yesterday. It takes 3 weeks of  “consistent behavior to change a habit or create a new one, such as establishing a regular exercise routine, eating a healthier diet, or taking time each day for self-care”. This is so true. It has been easier for me to adjust to a healthier lifestyle by making  this commitment. It isn’t easy and I am far from perfect. However, I committed and I did the challenge to the best of my abilities. Meditation is something I really wanted to embrace but was a bit scared to start. Focusing can be a problem.  I would begin and then without fail,  my mind would wander and I would have to bring it back. It did get better as I did every day. I even want to go hide in my office and meditate. I enjoy the silence. I find that I don’t fly off the handle as much anymore. I just try to find stillness.

The other committment I made is being a part of The Daily Challenge. It “promotes everyday well-being by encouraging the small actions and fostering the social ties that drive meaningful change.”  There are different tracks like Conquering Clutter, Money Matters and Agile Back. Every day you are given a challenge that helps with your well-being. I have been doing this for about 5 months. So far, I have been able to de-clutter my home and get rid of junk (I also watch Hoarders which completely freaks me out); get on a budget; and not have as much back pain through doing yoga.

I also try to do something theater related every day. That can be blogging, seeing a show, advising others on their show, thinking about new projects. When I do that, I don’t find myself pulling away from what I love.  It is always fresh in my head.

So find something you want to do and commit yourself to doing it for 21 days. It could be anything. You will see and feel the difference.

 

Rejection with a Capital “R”

Rejection is one of the worst feelings to endure especially when they happen in quick succession. Whether it’s not getting a response to an email, finding out news through the grapevine, or being told no, deciding how to address the rejection isn’t that easy.

This past week, there was an event I really wanted to go to but I couldn’t get the time from my job. In this case, I asked for advice. No truly is a complete sentence. It was in my best interest not to attend the event. I had to weigh the consequences as well as the benefits. The consequences outweighed the benefits.  Sometimes what I am interpreting as rejection may be an expiration date. That’s hard to stomach at times but I also have to be a realist. I, again, have to weigh the circumstances.  Not everything lasts forever though that’s what I want. Or is it?

Then I had to take a moment and look at the opposite of rejection. For me, it’s inclusion. In quick succession, I realized how fortunate I am to be included in something bigger than myself. Plus it’s my choice how I handle both.

And with that, I have to remember that everything comes with its opposite.

If you are free on Tuesday, I am doing a staged reading of Pirandello’s Sicilian Limes at The Players Club.

Also, stay tuned for info on our auditions for Twelfth Night!

Random Musings I

Sometimes I have nothing to write about but I know if I don’t write something then that muscle will not be exercised. Mostly this week has been full of one timers for me.

1. I didn’t watch the Oscars because I didn’t see any of the movies that were nominated. I have been so focused on the theater and tv, I haven’t been seeing many new movies. I’ll wait until they are On Demand or Netflix. 

2. I saw Missed Connections down at The Kraine which was awesome. We saw it with a special guest, George Salazar from Godspell and tonight, Julie Mattison is guest starring.

3. I spent the whole weekend in the theater taking care of the audience and cast. I got to exercise that PR muscle. Matinee audiences are a tough one.

4. I spent time with my family which was really lovely plus I got fed.

Here’s what else is going on.

 The Man Who Came To Dinner is having a great run. Ian and the gang close this weekend.  Check out www.parksideplayers.com for more info.

I am also doing a reading of Pirandello’s Sicilian Limes at The Players Club.  You can check out my Facebook event for that info. That will be on March 6th at 7pm.

We are also in pre-production for Twelfth Night which is part of the Black Henna 2012 Summer NYC Parks Tour. That’s always fun. If you know anyone who’d be interested in audition or being part of the production team, have them email your_friends@blackhennaproductions.com 

Gotta Love a Matinee!

This past weekend, Ian’s show The Man Who Came To Dinner opened with the Parkside Players. I helped with House Management because 1. I was going to be there anyway, 2. I knew how important the show was for Ian, and 3. they needed extra hands.

Plus, I do enjoy ushering and chatting with the audience. It’s one of my favorite things to do as a producer. And it’s important to add a little extra when the show is longer than most shows these days. Don’t worry. It’s only 7 hours long…KIDDING.

As you have read in my past blogs, the lack of respect from the audience during a performance makes me nuts. However, it doesn’t make me too crazy as I have gotten used to the
Sunday Matinee audience. This weekend phones rang and answered (yes), commentary was given at moments at the show, latecomers arrived as the show started and spoke aloud (I quickly sat them), and my fave, audience members who decided to sit where they wanted.

On the plus side of this craziness is the expectedness of all of this. I’ve been doing theater for a long time. Prior to the invention of personal cell phones, the instances mentioned have been going on for as long as I can remember. In any type of theater. In any city. In any type of show. I have to wonder if it’s because it’s bright outside so it seems not as important as an evening show. Do people not care? Do people think that the actors work less than at night? I have no idea. If you have one, post a comment.

All in all it was a great show with good attendance. In my opinion, I’ll take those two over the negative 🙂 But please, as mentioned before, if you can hear the actors, they can hear you.

Visit HERE for further info on The Man Who Came To Dinner.

Also, Godspell had a great week with guest star, Paul Shaffer (who is now following me on Twitter – woot!) and being on Project Runway!

Whitney, Godspell, The Man Who Came To Dinner

What do the three have in common? A person walks into the lives of others and changes them forever.

I was all ready to write about what an exciting theater week we’ll be having when I got the news of Whitney Houston passing.

There was much to say about her on Facebook. I actually had a bit of a fight on my status…that didn’t include me. I wrote the status. Others agreed. One didn’t. Then a war of words began and I deleted my status.

Because the point is not how Whitney lived her life but how she contributed to our lives.  We’ll never know what her demons were and why she had to use alcohol and drugs to cover her pain. We also are assuming this early on that it was an overdose. It might not have been.  And even if it turns out to be that, Whitney isn’t a bad person. Just sick. There are many people in my life that have suffered with alcoholism and addiction. I have seen them spiral and I have seen them do a 180. Either way I love them. I wish they didn’t have to suffer. I know what it is to have an amazing life and feel very alone at the same time. It is weird to be in the light and in the dark at the same time.  

I want to thank Whitney teaching me how to sing by listening to her ALBUMS. The Greatest Love of All, I Will Always Love You, One Moment in Time and to this day, I still sing her version of our national anthem. I’d like to also thank her for her contribution to music.

Now back to the THEE-A-TER!

It doesn’t get better than this! This is the week of love…love of the theater! On Thursday, February 16th, Paul Schaffer, the original Toronto Godspell Music Director and current MD of “The Late Show with David Letterman,” Paul Shaffer, will be making a cameo appearance in Godspell AND giving a talkback about his history with the show! So cool.

And…we are going to be on Project Runway All Stars!!! DVR it as it’s on Thursday, February 16th and you will be attending the show. Get tix HERE

And lastly, but not least, Ian and friends are in The Man Who Came Who Came To Dinner which opens this weekend. Check out Parkside Players’ website for more info.

See you at the show!

Declare Who You Are!

How good is that?! I know I have felt like that many times.  I have always said that I am a director even though I have another job that pays my bills. If I say I am a legal secretary, I can feel the despair set in and distancing from my true aspirations.

I love Oprah’s Master Class.  I enjoy the style in which the celebrities share their stories. They always have a nugget of inspiration about how they continue on when the chips are down.

I never know what theme will be repeated during the week but declare who you are started the week and ended the week. The other source is an unlikely one. However, it’s not that odd that the first one would be from theater and movies and the second one would be from music.

 The second time I heard it was at the Motorhead concert I attended at the Garden on Saturday.  Lemmy screached in his raspy voice, ” We are Motorhead and we play rock and roll!!!” He’s been saying that throughout the band’s 40 year career. 

Morgan and Lemmy have been living the life they want because simply, they say so.

My name is Malini and I am a director/producer.

Rant I: Ugh, Just Respect the Work

This week I rant about audience members not respecting theater. 

I wanted to see The Mountaintop with Angela Bassett and Samuel L. Jackson  since September. I got to see it this week in a nick of time as it closed this past weekend. The experience of seeing movie stars work on the stage, in the flesh,  is extra special for me. It’s an honor to share the same creative space with them. I felt that honor when I saw Private Lives with Kim Cattrall; Proof with Jennifer Jason Leigh; Inherit the Wind with Christopher Plummer and Brian Dennehy (Al Pacino happened to be in the audience – so cool). 

Yet, others don’t feel the same way. I am constantly distracted. This time I near fell off The Mountaintop…but didn’t.

Picture it: The people in front of me and next to me texted throughout the performance. I have done theater long enough to know how to keep my focus but not for nothing, it is really hard to stay focused when the lights are down and all of sudden I am blinded by the light of a cell phone. Towards the end of The Mountaintop, which is about the night before Martin Luther King Jr.’s assassination and his last moments at the Lorraine Motel, three people who were sitting in front of me got up to go to the bathroom. While they were gone, Angela Bassett closes the show with a beautiful and moving monologue to the audience. We were so moved. I am sure not a dry eye in the house. The audience members returned after the applause died down.  All I could think was, “Wow, you just missed the opportunity to see a multi-award winning actress give a performance..in the flesh.”

But that’s how it is at all the shows I go to see.  In the last year, this is what I observed:

  • Talking
  • Texting
  • Someone forgot to turn their iPod off (their playlist was on repeat)
  • Forgetting to turn off phones
  • Getting up in the middle of an intense moment
  • Saying the lines with the actors
  • Sleeping

All I am saying is please don’t blind me with your phone when the lights go down at the theatre. And give the actors the respect of tuning into the work that they are doing on that stage. Here’s a tidbit…if you can hear them, they can hear you.

 

Shrink Your Budget or Lose Money!

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If you have goals, strive for them. They are achievable.
If you have a desire, believe in it. It will manifest.
If you have fear, face it. It doesn’t control you.

My Round Robin is a desire that I had, a goal I wanted to achieve. I am glad that I was able to do face my fear of doing it. Sharing my experiences on shrinking a budget was as helpful to me as it was to the attendees.

We focused on the one aspect of producing a show that seems simple but sometimes can become complicated: creating the budget and staying within said budget. I have been fortunate not to go over my budgets but I have chosen to spend on line items that were unnecessary (for e.g., paying for a publicist, programs, concessions). So having the opportunity to share these experiences with fellow producers brought back some “fund” memories.

The focus of the workshop is starting with why produce a show. Once you can answer that question, the rest will fall into place. Then you can create a simple budget, figure out where to save money, how to get funds and how to promote it. And if you still are lost, no worries. I plan to do another Shrink Your Budget Workshop.

In other news, Godspell is kicking off Talk Back Tuesdays as of tomorrow with individual cast members. You can visit http://www.godspell.com for more information.

Also, from January 17 to February 4th, you can see some Broadway shows for 2 for 1 tickets.

Have a great week!

Was That Random?

I love when not so random things connect.

Today my sister and I went to see Wicked (LOVED!). Before seeing the show, we stopped by Ken Davenport’s office – Godspell’s fearless leader – to pick up some promotional items. We saw the show and then had dinner. Having dinner post-matinee and pre-evening show is always a bit tight. I won’t lie. I was a bit annoyed to be sandwiched between a group and a couple (they saw Wicked as well). Once I ate and had some coffee, I was back to my normal self. Throughout the dinner, I could hear their conversation and knew they were seeing Godspell right after. As I asked for the check, I asked the group if they were indeed seeing the show. They were and so excited. I introduced myself as I handed them a few Godspell buttons. They were so appreciative. One of the young women asked if she could talk to me about producing.  I gave her my info and told her she better reach out to me. That was pretty cool. Smiles all around.

My sister and I then got on the train. I was looking through the Wicked playbill as a guy got on with THE BOOK! Of course, we had a conversation with him. He decided to read the book after seeing the show. Turns out he saw Wicked with the original cast – Kristin Chenowith and Idina Menzel. Taye Diggs stepped in for Joel Gray as the Wizard. Joel Gray is the story of the month in Playbill magazine. Laughs and gushing about the show until he got off on his stop.

Finally at home and sharing this story with Ian, he tells me how much he loves when that sort of stuff happens.  A year ago he saw a woman on the train with a Fela playbill. We had seen it a few nights before and it changed us and so he shared that with her. They had an amazing conversation about the experience of seeing that show. Well, after we talked about loving that about the city, we went about our business. I had to write tonight’s blog  and he wanted to see what was on Netflix.

What was on Netflix under Recommendations? The documentary of Fela from 1982.

Is that synergy or the full moon?

Either way…AWESOME!

My Shrink Your Budget Workshop is on Saturday morning. Click to REGISTER

Happy New You!

You know what’s crazy? The resolves should be listed everywhere.

And you know what’s also crazy? I was reviewing the past year and saw that I really attempted to live by those words. It’s a good thing I didn’t read about it a year ago.

Here’s a quick recap of the past year:

  • Changed gears and took an active role in my well-being
  • In stepping off the ledge and taking the risk, good stuff happened
  • Had the desire to make a change and actually made the change
  • Trusted my instincts
  • Control my anger
  • Started this blog
  • Became an aunt 🙂

And this is what I hope to accomplish this year:

  • De-clutter my home as it will de-clutter my mind
  • If it’s broken, fix it, mend it or throw it out
  • Scanning is a friend to all. PDF it and get rid of the extra paper (unless important)
  • Set the intention for my big goal this year, believe that it will happen and let it go.

On Friday, I posted on Facebook that 2011 was a great year. Some responded that it wasn’t. I just so happen to know that though some of my friends had a tumultuous year, they had some good stuff happen to them as well. Sometimes we get so mired in the negative (I should know as I was the queen of negativity) that we don’t see the good. Therefore, I made them list 3 moments of happiness and gratitude.

Last year wasn’t all roses for me. I chose the wrong health insurance in haste. As a result, I was unable to buy my medication for my MS (which even with aid is expensive). I had to change paths and walk the path of wellness and alternative treatment. I haven’t had an episode…to date.

We also had to deal with some old finances for our theater company, Black Henna. Though very painful, it made me realize that there are other means to maintaining one of my dreams without the fear of living in a tent community.

And lastly, I finally let go of a 16 year resentment against someone I love. Though extremely difficult (I fought it a lot), I found another way to love without hurting myself.

So, now you have to write down 3 great things that happened for you last year and your resolves for the new you.